[Psych Psundays] Metaphors for the brain

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Another week, another issue of my new Psych Psundays series. A few responses I got to last week’s issue:

#1. “Pswell pstuff, John!”

#2. “This felt very personal…”

#3. “Hi John, the Psych Psunday series is fantastic. I had already read about Daniel Kinahan and his father because I’m a big fan of investigative journalism and books written by former police officers, journalists, and prosecutors who fight these criminals. I agree with everything you wrote.”

That’s encouragement enough for me. So let’s mush on.

This morning I listened to an interview with Jason Stacy, who is the performance coach of Aryna Sabalenka, the current no. 1 female tennis player in the world.

Stacy took some audience questions. One woman, very blonde and with very white teeth, asked:

“My question is, when your body is tired, but your goal is bigger than your comfort, what is the mental switch that elite athletes use to keep going?”

What caught my attention is the use of the word “switch.” It’s such an innocent-sounding word, but it exposes the prevalent metaphor we use to think about the brain, which I claim is neither useful nor pleasant.

That unpleasant and unuseful metaphor is that the brain is a machine, or more specifically a computer, or more specifically still, a buggy computer.

I don’t know exactly where this metaphor comes from.

A bit of research today told me that people have been comparing the brain to the new technology of the time for centuries.

In the age of mechanical automatons, Descartes wrote that the brain is like a hydraulic machine.

In the age of electricity, the brain was compared to a telegraph relay.

In the age of computers, John Von Neumann wrote The Computer And The Brain, about the similarities and the differences between brains and computers.

Now, in the age of big data, brains have been metaphorically reduced to “prediction machines.”

The problem is, at the same time, we’ve had people like Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky doing research on just how good humans are as prediction machines.

The result of Kahneman and Tversky’s research is prospect theory, which says that predictions or statistical evaluations done by human brains are consistently and predictably wrong.

In this view, human brains are prediction machines that aren’t all that good, or like I said earlier, they are buggy computers.

It’s not a not a very pleasant way to look at yourself.

What about useful?

Jason Stacy, Aryna Sabalenka’s performance coach, answered the very blonde, very white-toothed woman’s question about the one mental switch of elite athletes with a chuckle and a shrug. He said, “There’s a problem in the world these days where everyone is waiting to feel good to do something versus doing something to feel good.”

Stacy’s advice was to take action, consistently, even if it’s the smallest, most miserable bit of action at the start.

In other words, here’s a performance coach, in an actual measurable and competitive field, coaching at the very highest level, telling you that the “mental switch” ain’t really there to be flipped, and that what you really need to do is to grow and adapt over time.

For the purposes of this email, that’s all the proof I need to tell you that computer metaphor of the brain is not only not pleasant, but it’s also not useful.

But we all crave understanding and we crave simplicity. If the brain is not a computer, even a buggy computer, then what is it? Or at least, how can we think about it in a pleasant and even useful way?

For that, I would like to point you to a book I read last year.

This book doesn’t explicitly spell out a metaphor for the brain, but it makes the case, through various fascinating case studies, that the brain is — shockingly — not a machine but a living thing, an organ or perhaps an organism, like a tree or a climbing vine.

There are no switches to be flipped inside.

But over time, the brain grows and adapts to its environment, in alignment with its goals and the constraints put on it. Also, unlike a machine, which comes pretty much finalized out of the factory, the brain is capable of growing and adapting throughout its life.

Maybe I’m not selling the book well or this metaphor of “the brain as a climbing vine.” I won’t try to sell either any better right now.

All I will tell you is this book is one of the most influential books I’ve read over the past few years because it’s 1) fun, 2) inspiring, and 3) practical. And the idea of the brain as being a living and adaptable thing, rather than a buggy computer, is much more pleasant and more useful to me personally.

If you’re interested in psychology and neurology, and if you want some practical and inspiring takeaways, I highly recommend this:

https://bejakovic.com/doidge

If list growth is your priority, do not read this email

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It’s Saturday morning as I write this, if you can call 1:22pm morning.

I can call it that, or will call it that, because I went out last evening, had some drinks, and then spent a strange, tossy-turny, dream-oppressed night in bed.

All that’s to say, my brain, which is normally not the fastest and most energetic of my organs, is right now even slower than usual.

In my present state, around 1:18pm, I was unsure what to put into today’s email, or if there will even be an email today.

Fortunately, I checked my own inbox. And there I saw a fresh-off-the-presses email by my online buddy Kieran Drew.

“Hullo,” I said. Because the subject line of Kieran’s email was, “I lost $2,152 this month.”

It’s not a tremendously complicated situation:

Kieran sends out weekly emails to his list. Last month he didn’t make any new offers but just promoted his existing courses. That, plus some sales directly from his welcome sequence and some affiliate sales, made him about $3k.

On the other hand, Kieran’s expenses, including his VA, the ads he’s running, and the software he pays for, added up to over $5k.

Subtract one from the other, carry the zero, get out your red marker, and you get a $2,152 loss for March.

Now here’s the rub, and what made me decide to write an email about this:

Kieran’s audience is north of 250,000 people. His email list alone is close to 30k people.

My point being, if you think that a big list or a big audience will solve all your problems with your online business… well, no.

Kieran has made over $1.5M in the past, mainly from his email list, mainly by doing launches around new offers and promos around existing offers.

From what I understand, he’s gearing up to do so again.

But without new offers and without email-intensive launches and promos, he wound up in the red, thanks to an earnings last month of about $0.10/subscriber.

On the other hand, I recently listened to a case study by marketer Travis Sago, involving some unnamed dude. Said Travis:

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He just went through a transition point in his life, and everything was going wrong. Like Infusionsoft took his list. Like he was coming off a bad relationship.

I remember he was like, “Dude, can you help me?”

I said, “Well, I’m not sure. Come out here.”

I really like the guy. He came out here. He’s got a seven hundred person list.

I’m like, “What I would do is I would mail your list every day, invite them to a phone call, right?”

We came up with an offer for them.

In December, during the Christmas season, he had fifty grand in sales from that seven hundred person list. Now thirty five was collected, about fifteen was on payments.

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50 grand from a 700 person list. That’s $71/subscriber.

Now, I don’t know the behind-the-scenes details of this dude’s business. Plus, not everybody gets somebody like Travis Sago in their corner. Plus plus, it’s often easier to make higher and more impressive earnings per subscriber with a smaller list.

STILL.

Maybe you don’t make $71/subscriber.

Maybe you make $20/subscriber.

Or $10/subscriber.

Or $5/subscriber.

Or just $2/subscriber.

It’s quite doable.

And if you want some help with that, regardless of the size of your audience, come join me inside Daily Email House. that’s my free Skool group, where our collective mission is, “Email daily, make a $1k offer, pay for a house.” Your spot is waiting for you here:

https://bejakovic.com/house

I could not be in better company

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Today I’ve got quite the testimonial to share with you. Please indulge me.

This testimonial comes from a man who has sold 8 million books, and who, through his marketing and copywriting savvy, has gotten his business partner, who is the face of their business together, on 6,000 radio shows and 120 TV appearances, including the Oprah Winfrey Show.

This man’s name is J.Michael Palka. Somehow J.Michael found my “10 Commandments of Con Men, etc.” book. He read the book, and then he wrote me to say:

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John,

I have been writing copy for decades.

I have read, listened to and watch everything available on copywriting.

Probably have 500GB of copywriting material from all the greats and a few from the not so greats.

Your book is right there at the top.

As a master of marketing for over 50 years (my business partner and I sold 8 Million of our own self published books in print), I understand the foundation for marketing is psychology which I have studied for decades.

And your book blew me away.

Why I never heard of it before mystifies me. But the Universe always delivers when the time is right.

I will read it a few more times to get a full grasp of some of the concepts.

Your book is one of 2 books I will always have with me. The other is Breakthrough Advertising by Eugene Schwartz. You could not be in better company.

Thanks for your effort in writing the book. And may you live a long, healthy and fruitful life.

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I feel I should pull out some kind of a clever marketing or psychology lesson to share with you out of all this…

… but can’t I just share a glowing testimonial from time to time?

If you really want a some clever marketing or psychology lessons, I’ve written a book that’s full of that. People who are in the know like this book and recommend it quite highly. If you haven’t read it yet, your copy is waiting for you, right now. Here’s where you can find it:

https://bejakovic.com/new10commandments

SICTFOY: Last call for Ghostbuster Sequence

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This is the last email I’m sending to promote Nick Bandy’s Ghostbuster Sequence before the price doubles.

I was gonna be clever and use as my subject line Nick’s nuclear option followup, which Nick says works “TOO well,” a 7-word message that ultimately goes back to negotiation coach Jim Camp.

Fortunately, I caught myself in time.

If you wanna find out what Jim Camp’s 7-word message is, you can try to guess what SICTFOY could possibly stand for.

Or you can simply get the entire Ghostbuster Sequence, in which case it makes sense to act immediately, so you don’t have to pay double what everybody else will be paying, starting a few hours from now.

Speaking of Jim Camp, here’s an inspirational message I heard him deliver once:

“When someone says no, that’s just no for now. It’s not over until we want it to be.”

If you wanna get Ghostbuster Sequence, and reanimate “mostly dead” or even “all dead” conversations, and get more clients and do more deals, starting with what you’ve already got, and not take silence for a “no,” or a “no” as the end, then here’s where to get your fix:

https://bejakovic.com/ghostbuster

P.S. If you do get it before the deadline, forward me your receipt. I will personally send you a bonus of equal real-world value, my Secret of the Magi. It sells for $54 on my site right now, and tells you the biggest secret I’ve learned about opening up (not following up on) conversations that lead to business partnerships.

Flakebuster

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A couple weeks ago, I wrote an email with the subject line “Nasty followup.”

That was about a potential auction partner who was stringing me along. He kept pushing off the test for our potential auction, first to next week, then the week after that.

I sent that potential auction partner a slightly snarky message, hence the “Nasty followup” subject line.

My potential auction partner didn’t get offended at my slightly snarky message. He replied to me in a cheerful way. But once again, he told me to push off our auction test until the end of what is now last month.

At the end of last month, I followed up with him again.

At this point, he didn’t reply any more. A few days later, I followed up again. He still didn’t reply.

And then last night, I was going through Nick Bandy’s Ghostbuster Sequence v2.0, which Nick just rolled out yesterday to existing buyers.

Of course v2.0 is bigger than v1.0, but I was genuinely impressed by how cool of a product it is now.

Nick includes some sample case studies in the back. I picked out a message from one of those case studies and sent it to my mostly dead potential auction partner.

And you know what?

After two+ weeks of silence, the dude got back to me! Amazing! Exciting! Incredible! He wrote me to say:

“Hey buddy! Let’s do next month?”

… in other words, more flakiness, more maybe, more mañana.

I’m telling you this for two reasons:

1) I wanna be transparent about the realities of 1-1 follow-up.

Sometimes you send one message after months, and the deal gets immediately and magically done. Ch-ching!

Other times, like here, you get somebody who is a flake to keep stringing you along. But if it’s a partnership worth tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars (as this has the potential to be), it warrants at least sending some messages to push it along or to find out for sure it will never happen.

2) After I got the “Let’s do next month?” reply, I sent Nick Bandy a message. I told Nick his next offer should be about converting people who keep saying “maybe” into people who tell you a clear yes/no. Working title, “Flakebuster Sequence.”

I’m glad I wrote Nick, because he gave me a great recommendation. He suggested I send his “Stage 7” message next, which I called the “Mr. America” technique in my email earlier today.

I’ll wait a couple days and then do exactly as Nick says, and maybe even report on the results of it.

But by the time that happens, it will be too late for you, at least if you’re looking to get Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence (v2.0!) before the price doubles, today at 8pm EST.

Yes, you will still be able to buy Ghostbuster Sequence next week. But why spend more? And why wait? Mañana, mañana, mañana…

Ghostbuster Sequence is a set of copy-and-paste messages that can be worth a pirate ship’s worth of gold bullion to you, starting right now. If you wanna get the lot today before the price goes up forever, here’s where to go:

https://bejakovic.com/ghostbuster

P.S. If you do get it before the deadline, forward me your receipt. I will personally send you a bonus of equal real-world value, My Secret of the Magi. It sells for $54 on my site right now, and tells you the biggest secret I’ve learned about opening up (not following up on) conversations that lead to business partnerships.

Glossary of 1-1 follow up

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The past few days, I’ve been telling you about Nick Bandy’s system for reactivating leads and deals that have gone silent, called Ghostbuster Sequence.

If you open up Ghostbuster Sequence, you might find yourself confused by the unfamiliar follow-up jargon. I don’t want you to be confused. I really don’t. So let me give you a glossary that defines some of the terms you’ll see inside:

Stage 1: Conversations that have been dead for 2 weeks or more. For conversations like this, send Nick’s “Stage 1” message and proceed to Stage 2.

Stage 2: Conversations that have been dead for less than 2 weeks. In Princess Bride terms, these are “mostly dead” conversations. There’s a big difference between “mostly dead” and “all dead.”

Meme Warfare: A strategic graphical assault on your dead (or mostly dead) prospect, designed to get them to crack a smile and make it easy for them to reply.

The “Jim Camp Nuclear Option”: A 7-word message to send prospects after multiple previous followups have failed to produce a response. (Nick attributes this message to marketer Travis Sago. I happen to know it goes back to negotiation coach Jim Camp.) Says Nick, “It works TOO well.”

The “Negative Reply Pivot”: A message to send high-value prospects who explicitly tell you “NO.”

Educated assumptions: Statements to send your dead (or mostly dead) prospects that break the pattern of constant follow-up questions.

“Mr. America” technique: Nick doesn’t call it this inside his Ghostbuster Sequence. Instead, he calls it “Stage 7.”

I think my name is distinctly better. It comes from the following story from the book Mr. America, about health publisher Bernarr MacFadden:

“With his marriage to Mary officially over, Macfadden had captured headlines by taking a new bride. Johnnie Lee McKinney was a forty-four-year-old health lecturer and former interior designer when she met the seventy-nine-year-old publisher — a sturdy, vivacious blond Texas beauty molded in Macfadden’s preferred silhouette. Theirs was a whirlwind courtship. He attended one of her talks in Manhattan, then hounded her into a lunch date at the New York Athletic Club. After a wholesome meal, the two proceeded to Johnnie Lee’s apartment, where the vigorously amorous Macfadden demonstrated his usual distaste for small talk by unzipping his trousers to reveal what Johnnie Lee called ‘the most exquisite sex organ I had ever seen on a man.’ Johnnie Lee declined her date’s unspoken offer — as well as his shouted proposal to marry her immediately—” though she did end up marrying MacFadden and his exquisite sex organ within the month.

Maybe you find that story crude. Don’t worry. Nick’s take on this technique is anything but crude. In fact, Nick’s use of this technique is professional and yet effective, and can work not just at the start of a courtship, but after everything else has failed to produce a response.

Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence goes up in price from $54 to $97 at 8pm EST tonight. If you’d like to get it before then:

https://bejakovic.com/ghostbuster

P.S. If you do get it before the deadline, forward me your receipt. I will personally send you a bonus of equal real-world value, My Secret of the Magi. It sells for $54 on my site right now, and tells you the biggest secret I’ve learned about opening up (not following up on) conversations that lead to business partnerships.

How long will it take me to pay back Nick Bandy?

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Last December, I ran an auction in my Daily Email House community. The offer on auction was my endorsement and promotion, as much of it as needed to pay back the winner the entire winning bid.

The winning bidder in that auction turned out to be Nick Bandy.

The winning bid turned out to be $31k.

I got very lucky with Nick being the winner of the auction:

Nick already has a sizable email list. He’s got an automated way of growing that list with new subscribers every day. He writes great daily emails. He’s got a suite of info products. He’s got personal authority in the form of his day job as a fractional CMO at a reverse mortgage company. Plus he’s kind of a cool guy, who tends to spend much of the day in his bathrobe.

And yet, since December, you haven’t heard me endorsing or promoting Nick all that much.

Since December, what Nick and I have been doing together has all been behind the scenes.

In case you’ve got an email list yourself, what I’m about to say can be valuable to you:

If you wanna make good money from your list, and if that list is not tens of thousands or or hundreds of thousands of subscribers strong, it’s unlikely you will get to where you want to go without higher-priced offers, meaning at least something that sells for $500+, and preferably for $1k or more.

I told Nick that. He agreed. And so we’ve been working on one or more high-ticket offers he can sell, that match his experience, skills, and taste.

Progress has been slowed by the fact that Nick has many other lucrative and attractive things to do.

There’s his steady fractional CMO gig.

There are his personal obligations like his daily emails and Skool community.

And then there are exciting side projects like partnerships he recently finagled with a local roofing business (database of 30,000 customers and 100,000 leads)… a YouTuber with 300k subscribers… a skydiving business with a 30k+ customer list… and more.

I’m telling you all this because Nick is currently in the middle of a price increase promo for one of his offers, Ghostbuster Sequence.

If you do anything online — client work, or you have your own email list, or you have a personal brand — I recommend to you to get Ghostbuster Sequence.

Not because I have to pay Nick back $31k.

Ghostbuster Sequence sells for $54 right now. At that price, it would take a ridiculous number of sales for me to pay Nick back.

Instead, I’m recommending Ghostbuster Sequence because of its fundamental value.

Ghostbuster Sequence gives you a simple, easy, and effective system for doing followup, which is a success-multiplier habit that everybody pays lip service, to but that almost nobody teaches or gives practical recommendations on.

Following up means you can get way more out of way less — whether that’s leads, referrals, potential partnerships, etc.

Following up was instrumental in Nick’s own success, both back when he hunted for clients and today, when he’s interested in partnerships like the ones I listed above.

Nick has written down his followup system inside Ghostbuster Sequence, for you to use as-is.

Like I said, Ghostbuster Sequence currently sells for $54, but, in part due to my instigation, Nick is raising the price to $97 tomorrow, Thursday, at 10pm EST.

If you get it before then, you save yourself some money. You have a chance to put it to work sooner rather than later. Plus, you get a free bonus that sells for $54 on my site right now:

Secret of the Magi, which tells you the biggest lesson I’ve learned about how to open up cold conversations that lead to business partnerships, whether client work, or JV deals, or sponsorships.

For all that, here’s where to go, before the opportunity disappears:

https://bejakovic.com/ghostbuster

Doubles your clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates

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Today I’d like to tell you about a special deal on a plug-and-play mechanism that doubles your clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates.

To be honest, this plug-and-play mechanism is very likely to more than double your clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates.

But I didn’t want to scare you or get you suspicious by making outrageous promises right out the gate, like saying that this plug-and-play mechanism triples, quadruples, or quintuples your clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates.

Would you like to know what I’m talking about?

F.U.

I mean, Follow-Up.

(What did you think I meant?)

The fact is, if you have any kind of a way right now to start conversations with possible clients, or affiliate partners, or list swap deals, or dates, then I am certain you have had prospects and leads who have dropped off somewhere along the way.

That is normal.

What is not normal, or is at least a little bit odd, is that email marketers and email copywriters who will happily lecture you on the importance of emailing daily, of regular followup, when done behind the cover of a broadcast email software, are repelled and horrified by the idea of sending a direct 1-1 message to reengage a prospect who has dropped off or has failed to respond.

The fact is, business owners are busy. Business owners are forgetful. Business owners are lazy (yes, it’s absolutely true).

If a business owner you’ve been talking doesn’t reply to you, odds are excellent it has nothing to do with you or your proposal or offer. Odds are also excellent that they will eventually reengage if you keep following up with them, and they might even be grateful to you.

And yet, people don’t follow up.

I mean, will you run off right after you read this email and follow up with all the disappeared clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates you’ve talked to over the past 6 months or a year, before the conversation went cold?

I’m guessing not. Why is that?

I have my own theory. If you like, I’ll share it in a subsequent email.

But not today. Today I have for you the best deal in the history of 1-1 followup deals, which will soon disappear.

I’m talking about Nick Bandy’s Ghostbuster Sequence.

Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence is a set of 6 simple, plug-and-play templates to follow up with lapsed, forgetful, or disappeared prospects for clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates.

These templates are proven (check out the sales page below). More than that, they also provide a certain psychological buffer to the intimidating act of 1-1 followup. Here’s what I mean:

1. Simply send what Nick gives you inside Ghostbuster Sequence.

2. If it doesn’t work, put all the blame on Nick and his templates.

3. If it does work, tap yourself on the back for a job well done, and take all the credit.

4. Whether it works or not, move on to the next lapsed prospect, and repeat the process.

Do this and I guarantee you, you will be a richer man or woman for it, and very soon.

Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence currently sells for $54, which is close to criminally underpriced.

On Thursday, the price will go up to a slightly more reasonable $97.

That’s what I meant when I said this great offer is disappearing. And to give you a little bit of a gentle extra kick before it does disappear, I’ll throw in a bonus of equivalent real-world value.

If you get Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence before this Thursday at 10pm EST, when the price will almost double, then I will also add in my Secret of the Magi, which tells you just one thing:

The biggest lesson I’ve personally learned about opening up conversations that can lead to business partnerships (and possibly dates).

(I learned this lesson through extensive cold emailing of business owners a couple years ago. Read all about it in the Secret of the Magi.)

With the Secret of the Magi, you can open a steady stream of conversations to either profit from directly, or to feed into Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence in case the conversation goes cold.

Secret of the Magi currently sells on my site right now for $54, the same price as Nick’s Ghostbuster Sequence, at least before the price of Ghostbuster Sequence almost doubles.

But why pay more?

If you want a plug-and-play mechanism that doubles your clients, affiliate partners, list swap deals, and possibly dates, meaning Ghostbuster Sequence… and a way of opening such conversations to start with, meaning Secret of the Magi… here’s where to go:

https://bejakovic.com/ghostbuster

P.S. Forward me your receipt from Nick and I will get you access to Secret of the Magi. I don’t have a better way to handle this right now.

Last call for chocolate-chip Most Valuable Offer

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Last night while making dinner, I was listening to a documentary about the 1980s action blockbuster Die Hard. The director, John McTiernan, said:

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I’d done a movie with [producer] Joel Silver. It’s called Predator. He sent me this script. I sent it back. I said, “Thanks no.” Cause it was a terrorist story! It was terrorists take over a building and now we’re gonna wipe out terrorists. There’s no fun in terrorism. There’s no joy in it. And I said, “Couldn’t we make this a robbery?” Everybody likes robbers. You can have fun. Even a bad robber is fun.

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Die Hard did end up being a movie about terrorists taking over a building.

But McTiernan and company managed to squeeze quite a bit of fun out of that, and so McTiernan’s point still stands:

If you’re gonna do something, you might as well make it fun, even a joy, for both yourself and the audience.

Today is the last call for Most Valuable Offer.

We — meaning the people who have already signed up and I — will kick things off this Wednesday, just two days from now.

I want to talk to anyone interested before they sign up to make sure I can be of use to them, and that’s why today is the last call.

The public goal of Most Valuable Offer is to launch a paid live workshop to your list by the end of April, with my direct help, guidance, and feedback.

The secret goal of Most Valuable Offer is to make your live workshop fun.

Of course, you don’t have to make it fun. But why not? It’s not hard to do, and it will be more enjoyable this way for both you and your audience.

Plus, if it’s fun, it will make it more likely they pay attention, put your info into action, and profit from it. And all that makes it more likely they come back to you for more help, many more times in the future.

In case you are interested in joining us for Most Valuable Offer, the time is NOW. For the full chocolate-chip info so you can make your decision:

https://bejakovic.com/mvo

[Psych Psundays] Cops and robbers

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For the past couple weeks, I’ve been running a new email series I call Psych Psundays. The first week, the response was good. The second week, it was also good:

#1. “Wow. Thank you, John.”

#2. “Lovely email John – many thanks for writing it – I loved reading it. Great storytelling.”

#3. “These Psych Sundays are helpful.”

#4. “Honestly this came at the right time for me. Just started a new creative strategist role – my first time writing ad scripts – with a new supplement brand. Since this is my first time doing this, I’ve been fighting similar thoughts like “This isn’t right for me, I only know email”… big imposter syndrome stuff. Been taking the next step and fighting those thoughts, leading up to submitting my first ads, was wondering if they’d be ripped to shreds, but the only real feedback I got was “good ads 🔥”… So it’s been a trip.”

This third week, Psych Psundays continues, and threatens to bleed into Pself-Help Psundays instead.

Will this be the end of this series as readers unsubscribe in disgust?

Or will I tell you something interesting and possibly valuable?

Let’s see.

I will start by admitting that last week I rewatched the 2002 Hong Kong movie Infernal Affairs. You might know it better in the 2006 remake version by Martin Scorcese, called The Departed.

The movie tells the story of a drug kingpin and a police captain, each of whom plants a mole in the other’s organization.

The cops and criminals keep clashing, pulling away to try to outwit each other, and clashing again.

This coming together and pulling away is precisely what makes the movie tense and fun to watch, all the way to the final showdown, where everybody loses and order is restored to the universe.

Compare that to an article I read a while back about a man named Daniel Kinahan. The article asked a simple question, “An Irish drug dealer, Daniel Kinahan, commands a billion-dollar cocaine empire from the U.A.E. Why isn’t he in prison?”

The background was that Kinahan’s father, Christy, grew up middle class in Dublin, but got into the drug trade. Christy was smart, polite, and careful. Unlike everybody else in the drug business, he was not an addict himself.

Still, in the first few years of his career, back in 1987, Kinahan Sr. got caught and served a few years in prison.

After he got out, Kinahan Sr. made changes to how he was running his drug trafficking business to make it less likely he would get caught.

When his son Daniel took over, there were even more changes introduced, and the risk was reduced even further.

The result is that the Kinahans have been running one of the world’s biggest cocaine organizations, but continue to live free in Dubai, and apparently the police cannot or will not touch them.

Frankly, not much of a story there, and definitely not worth a movie.

A couple weeks ago, back in the inaugural Psych Psunday email, I mentioned I was reading a book called Games People Play. The book is a catalogue of “games” — repeated personal interactions that are played for ulterior motives and payoffs rather than the obvious reasons.

One game described in Games People Play is called “Cops and Robbers.” It’s about real-life cops and robbers, or at least some of them.

The game of “Cops and Robbers” is played for a combination of excitement and security. The excitement comes from being chased. The security comes from being caught and put back to the same place where the robber is used to being, whether that’s the local slum or prison.

But here’s the bit I found interesting. Not every criminal plays “Cops & Robbers.” From Games People Play:

“There seem to be two distinctive types of habitual criminals: those who are in crime primarily for profit, and those who are in it primarily for the game — with a large group in between who can handle it either way. The ‘compulsive winner,’ the big moneymaker whose Child really does not want to be caught, rarely is, according to reports; he is an untouchable, for whom the fix is always in. The ‘compulsive loser,’ on the other hand, who is playing ‘Cops and Robbers,’ seldom does very well financially.”

I found this distinction between “pros” and “C&R players” interesting. It’s the difference between the “Cops & Robbers” players as dramatized in Infernal Affairs, and the Kinahans, the real-life untouchables and compulsive winners, who don’t really make for a good story, but who do live rich and free.

This distinction between “pros” and “players of Cops & Robbers” goes way beyond the criminal world. If you ask me, this same distinction applies pretty much everywhere in life, including the direct response industry.

Publicly, the DR industry all about dramatic transformations and secret push-button solutions that will make you lose weight or turn you into a millionaire in the next 24 hours.

Privately, behind the scenes, the DR industry is built on the Recency-Frequency-Monetary Value formula.

Basically, it’s about selling the same thing, over and over, to people who have been buying for years, people who actually have ulterior motives than making money or losing weight quickly, even though that’s what they they are paying for.

And this is where we veer from Psych Psunday.

Psychology is good at classifying and diagnosing. For how to change, you gotta go to a different section of the bookstore, the self-help section.

For example, I once read a book called Straight-Line Leadership. At its core, it’s about the distinction between “straight-line people” and “circle people.”

It’s the exact same distinction as Games People Play makes, between “pros” and “people who play Cops & Robbers.”

The difference between Straight-Line Leadership and Games People Play is that Straight-Line Leadership tells you that you can become a straight-line person today.

You don’t have to keep quitting or “being caught” once things are going well. You can simply keep going in a straight line, onwards and upwards, like a compulsive winner.

And if you do encounter a setback (eg. you get thrown into jail, like Kinahan Sr.) you can simply come out of jail, make some changes, and get back on the straight line.

A master of direct marketing once wrote:

“One of the greatest lessons I learned about direct marketing over the years is that if it ain’t boring, you’re doing it wrong. If you’re juggling too many balls, running around frantically putting out fires all the time, if every day is a constant uphill battle to succeed… then… something ain’t right. This business, when done correctly, should be dull, boring, slow moving (even at high speed), and mostly automated.”

So there you go. To have a real shot at getting rich and free, get your kicks from somewhere other than your business.

Or don’t. Get your kicks from your business, keep playing Cops and Robbers, experiencing exciting ups and downs.

Many people do it, and there’s no shame in it.

But in that case, you can spare yourself the frustration of wondering why those ups and downs are always there, and realize they’re there because you want them on some level.

And now, a reminder that my Most Valuable Offer launches this coming Wednesday.

With Most Valuable Offer, I’m offering to give you my direct help so you can run a successful launch of a paid live workshop by the end of April, which you can then keep selling, in an automated way, until the stars fall from the sky.

For more info:

https://bejakovic.com/mvo