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Drive X: Why people online are such brutes

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Following my email yesterday about a new 2-star review of my 10 Commandments book, a bit of a discussion developed inside my community, Daily Email House, around the topic of:

“How do you deal with trolls, critics, and know-it-alls in your audience?”

One House member replied that she “stopped caring and installed a ‘mean’ part of me that can trigger people.”

To which another House member replied with some interesting historical context:

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The Internet has been like this since the age of the dinosaurs (the 1990s) when all we had were chat room and Usenet lists to abuse each other.

Back when everything was anonymous I did the same thing: develop a “mean” persona to play online because that’s the only way to survive a forest of predators.

After online turned social [sic] and we gave up on privacy, the urge to be a jerk behind a screen never went away.

It’s convinced me that a good portion of the public suffers from some kind of mental or emotional disturbance.

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But if a good portion of the public has a mental or emotional disturbance… is it a disturbance any longer?

I’m not trying to be cute or contrary.

Rather, I think the House member above is on to a key insight about human nature.

It’s not that people are brutes by nature. But they do have a core human drive — let’s call it Drive X for the sake of mystery — which can turn them brutish.

Drive X is not the drive for sex, the way that Sigmund Freud taught.

It’s also not the drive for meaning in life, the way Victor Frankl taught.

Rather, Drive X is something entirely different, which permeates all our interactions with other human beings, online as well as offline.

When left unsatisfied, Drive X gives rise to brutish behavior.

But when Drive X is satisfied, people become open and relaxed and even compliant.

Which is why the world’s top influence professionals — from con men to copywriters to screenwriters — appeal to this Drive X and promise to satisfy it in their marks, prospects, and audiences, first and foremost, above all other considerations.

And that’s why, in my 10 Commandments book, I make Drive X the topic of the very first commandment, because it is PARAMOUNT.

If you have my 10 Commandments book already, you know what Drive X is, or you can look it up easily, at the end of Commandment I.

And if you don’t have my 10 Commandments book yet, you can find it below, and catch up to everyone who is clued in already:

https://bejakovic.com/new10commandments

Mmeh!

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I’m back to Barcelona, I slept well last night, and I just went for a bike ride along the sea, where the Sunday morning weather couldn’t be more beautiful.

That’s why I was thrilled — well, at least not very put off — by a new and glowing 2-star review of my new 10 Commandments book.

An old, experienced, and spelling-challenged reader writes on Amazon:

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Mmeh!

Not sure why I both this book. It has lots of anicdotes and examples of what magicians, marketers and sales people do to convince or con audiences but nothing really eye opening. While it may offer something unique to someone with no experience, I maybe too old and experienced for this crap.

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To this reviewer, I say Mmeh!

It’s never fun or exciting to be told how a magic trick is done.

And the same really goes for learning the magic of copywriting, or comedy, or even pickup.

Persuading other humans to have a certain experience, or to do something you want them to do, is ultimately about putting on a show, an effect, a presentation for the audience to see.

Discovering the technique that goes into that cannot compare to the excitement and emotional stimulation that you feel as an unwitting participant or audience member.

Discovering those behind-the-scenes tricks can only become fun or exciting once again in case you become so obsessed and deeply enmeshed in the craft that good technique and ways to improve it become sexy to you on their own.

My reviewer above says he is too old and experienced. I imagine that means he has dabbled a lot, constantly buying more stuff in search of something novel and stimulating, but putting little of what he’s been exposed to into practice.

It’s hard to please an audience like that, and frankly, I don’t try to do it.

On the other hand, if you are new to the topic of influencing and persuading others…

… or if you are old and experienced, in the sense of having put a lot of what you’ve learned about human psychology into practice — whether selling, or making people laugh, or making girls say yes to you — then you are likely to find something unique, fun, and even valuable in my book.

For more info, or if you’d like to both this book right now:

https://bejakovic.com/new10commandments

Do you NOT (or would you NEVER) sell ads in your newsletter?

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Yesterday, I asked whether you do (or would) sell ads in your newsletter?

I got some folks replying to say yes:

#1. Open to it across all of my media. I have 3 newsletters, 2 with about 40k subs and one with about 2k paid subs. Also IG with about 100k followers, YT with about 40k subs, Linked in about 30k followers. Also interested in buying ads in newsletters.

#2. Id be open it to. But I’m starting from scratch again (sort of) growing an email list of business owners, and copywriters instead of just investors… So interested in buying ad space perhaps

#3. I would. I’ve done it several times in the past, especially for my PowerPoint email list, but not recently.

That’s great, and I’ll add these folks to the newsletter ad sellers resource I’m putting together.

At the same time, I was shocked at how few people replied.

Is it that so few people with email lists read my emails? If so, then I’m doing something very wrong with what I write and sell and preach.

Or maybe it’s that the list owners who read these emails simply find the idea of running ads a no-go?

In that case, it’s a matter of my professional pride, as a self-employed investigative journalist, to find out more.

If you have an email list, and currently do NOT or would NEVER sell ads, either as a matter of principle, or from simple intuition, I’d love to know why.

Hit reply and let me know.

I’m not promising anything in return, except that I won’t try to convince or persuade you to change your mind on anything. I simply want to listen and understand your point of view better. Thanks in advance.

Do you (or would you) sell ads in your newsletter?

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There’s a lot of interest in growing email lists via newsletter ads.

But there’s no good centralized resource of quality newsletters that offer ad spots.

And many list owners who would be open to running ads don’t advertise or even consider the fact.

Which got me wondering… do you sell ad spots in your newsletter? Or would you be open to it?

It could be a “classified ad” — a few lines of copy, tacked on to the rest of your regular newsletter content…

Or it could be “advertorial style” — a full email, dedicated to just the offer being advertised, written in your own words or voice.

And in case you don’t yet offer ads, but now I got you thinking about it, let me address a couple cloudy doubts that might be forming in your mind:

1. You always have the right to refuse an advertiser, so you only promote people who you can can vouch for, because they deliver good content & value.

2. Your list doesn’t need millions or billions of names to be interesting to advertisers. A huge list made up of a buncha bums is a pointless place to advertise. On the other hand, a small and highly engaged list, made up of quality people, can be plenty interesting to advertisers.

So do you (or would you) sell ads in your newsletter?

If so, hit reply and let me know. I’m putting together a little resource of newsletters that are open to sponsors or advertisers, and I’ll add you to it.

(And if you don’t have a newsletter, but do have an audience in some other shape — a community or podcast or YouTube channel — write in and let me know that also.)

Thanks in advance.

What do I write about NOW?

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I woke up this morning to find out that, after about 8 years of this daily email newsletter, my dad finally found me online and signed up to hear from me every day.

“Oh God,” I said to myself, “what do I write about NOW?”

This always happens whenever somebody from my real life signs up for my newsletter. I suddenly get in my head and start thinking what people will think. It lasts a day or two. Then I gradually relax and get back to writing for myself.

To date, as far as I know, this newsletter counts among its readers my mom… my dad… friends I have had for 20+ years… girls I’ve known or dated or been in long-term relationships with… a mom of an ex-gf… several people I have only met in real life after being in contact with them via this newsletter… a motley collection of people I have never met in real life but that I have surprisingly fun and even important relationships with online, entirely via typing and maybe occasionally by Zoom… and then of course the large and mostly silent majority who sometimes read, sometimes reply, and sometimes buy from me and make my life, the way it is, possible.

I really struggled to write today’s email.

For one thing, because I’m in my head, like I said at the start.

For another thing, Christmas Eve is not very inspiring or exciting where I’m at right now.

It’s rainy and gray in Zagreb today. I’m currently at an Airbnb and getting ready to go for a Christmas Eve gym session, before heading for the Christmas Eve suckling pig roast at my mom’s and grandma’s.

In terms of email fodder, nothing much is going on compared with years past. (I checked my email from December 24 2024. I found the Holy Grail on Christmas Eve last year, and I wrote an email about it).

A final thing is that, though I’m no believer and frankly I have zero tradition of Christmas from when I was a kid (New Year’s was the big holiday then, with presents and a tree and a commie version of Santa Claus), I still feel some reluctance to go into my usual full-salesman mode on Christmas Eve. (I will reserve that for tomorrow.)

So lemme just say how strange and in a way miraculous it is to be able to do what I’m doing.

I wanna say thanks that you’re reading these emails, including presumably today, on Christmas Eve.

If you celebrate, enjoy your own version of suckling pig or however it is you feast today. If you don’t celebrate, I hope you’re doing well wherever you are in the world. In the words of my spirit animal, Ebenezer Scrooge, “A Merry Christmas to everybody!”

Am I ditching daily emails in favor of communities?

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Yesterday, I sent out an email about how my bank cancelled my debit card while they ship me a new one. I also dramatically stated I’ve been living on 200 euro in cash until my new card arrives.

In reply to that email, I got an offer from long-time reader, fellow Barcelona resident, and occasional coffee buddy named Matthias (not sure he wants me to share his last name). Matthias wrote:

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Hey John, just read your mail. Similar happened to me last month. If you need some cash, let me know, then I can meet you for a quick coffee or sth.

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Also yesterday, at the end of my email, which was really about how my Amazon book sales have cratered after I stopped paying for ads a few days ago due to the cancelled debit card — and dropped from 19 a day (last day of advertising) to just 2 a day (a couple days ago) — I asked readers to buy my book on Amazon, either because they are curious about it or because they want to help me goose sales until can get ads running again.

I have been promoting this book since May. I have written dozens of emails driving readers to the Amazon page for it.

Most of my best and most dedicated readers and customers have already bought this book.

And yet, I still made 11 new sales yesterday, and from what I can tell, all or close to all of those came via my email.

I’m telling you this because lately I’ve been talking a lot about the Skool community I’m running, and in particular the auction I ran last week inside that community.

(Maybe you heard? The winning bid in that auction was $31k. In case you haven’t heard, don’t worry, because it’s a fact I will be repeating several hundred more times before 2025 runs to a close.)

About that community and auction:

After the auction completed last week (with a $31k winning bid, just in case you forgot), I got lots of feedback and impressions from people who witnessed what went down.

One such bit of feedback came from Howard Shaw. Howard’s a Partner at Chester Toys, a UK toy wholesaler that’s been in business for 60 years. Howard also happens to read these emails, and he wrote:

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I think what showed during the whole auction was the affinity with your group – which I guess in no small part is down to people ‘knowing you’ from being on your list.

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Howard’s absolutely right.

Communities are great, and it’s been fun to build up something new.

But the fact is, my community wouldn’t exist had it not been for this email newsletter.

Not only in terms of members who form the core of the community, and who joined via these emails… but also in terms of engagement by those folks, which is there in large part because of the relationship that these emails have built up.

Fortunately, I don’t have to choose between having a community and an email list. It’s easy and profitable and fun to have both.

But if the direct marketing gods forced me to choose only one, then for all the reasons I’ve listed above, and for many other reasons besides, I’d choose an email list, and I’d MAIL IT DAILY.

Now, if you want some help with MAILING A LIST DAILY, and sticking with it for the long term, I’ve got just the thing to help you.

It’s my Daily Email Habit service. Speaking of:

Earlier this week, I got on a call with the winner of the auction I ran last week, Nick Bandy. (Nick’s winning bid, for the third and final time, at least in this email, was $31k.)

I grilled Nick about his current job (fractional CMO with a $12k/mo retainer), his life history, his list (about 800 people, all added since this spring) the offers he’s making the people on his list via daily emails, and then some.

At the end of our call, which lasted about two hours in total, Nick said about Daily Email Habit, which he wants to promote to his own list as well:

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That’s why I said Daily Email Habit so enthusiastically. I literally wouldn’t have started any of this if I didn’t buy that. I enthusiastically endorse this. It’s one of the best things I ever spent money on.

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If you wanna find out more about Daily Email Habit, or get going with this enthusiastically endorsed service today, so you can build up your own stock of human relationships with folks who support and drive on everything else you want to do online or offline:

https://bejakovic.com/deh

If you have a book on Amazon, then advertise, liberally

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I’m taking part in a forced experiment:

My debit card was set to expire in January ’26.

My bank shipped me a new one, but due to some snafu with the address, it didn’t arrive.

I asked the bank to resend the new card. Which they did.

In the meantime, they also helpfully cancelled my current, still-valid card.

For one thing, this means I have been living for the past few days on the 200 or so euro I had in cash when my debit card got cancelled.

For another, a bunch of online accounts started notifying me that my card is no longer valid.

Among these is the Amazon ads platform.

As you might know, I have a couple books on Amazon, both conveniently titled the 10 Commandments of SOMETHING.

I’ve been running ads to promote the newer of those 10 Commandments books since I published it in May.

The book has been steadily selling ~15 copies a day thanks to its cool black cover, its provocative 23-word title, and of course the ads I’ve been running for it.

But how much is each of those elements responsible for the steady sales of the book?

That’s the forced experiment I am now involved in. Let’s look at the data.

My Amazon ads stopped running on December 12. Here are the sales of my book on Amazon for each day from December 11th (when ads were still running) until yesterday:

Dec 11: 19

Dec 12: 8

Dec 13: 8

Dec 14: 6

Dec 15: 2

… and as for today, December 16, there have been zero sales as of the time I’m writing this.

Maybe Amazon is punishing me for no longer running ads by throttling even organic sales of my book.

But I rather think it’s the opposite. My theory is that, if you pay Amazon to advertise your book, and particularly if you make a few sales via advertising, Amazon goes above and beyond in promoting your book to readers organically.

The point I’d like to suggest to you:

If you have a book on Amazon, then advertise. And be liberal.

My current ad spend philosophy on Amazon is that I just want to break even across all sales — the money I spend on ads should be roughly equivalent to the royalties I make on both paid AND organic book sales.

My future ad spend philosophy on Amazon — as soon as I get my new debit card, or soon after — will be to spend even more liberally.

My plan is to (finally) put an offer on the thank-you page of the optin that I link to at the end of the book. I’m thinking to make that offer something unique, only available on that page, and available for ~$100. Whatever money I make from these thank-you-page sales will also go towards Amazon ads. I figure even one or two sales of that a month could be a big deal for helping me sell way more books.

If you’ve already read my new 10 Commandments book, maybe you have a suggestion for an offer I could make to readers of that book, immediately after they finish the book and opt into my list? Something that would tie into the theme and topic of the book?

If you have an idea, write in and let me know. If I end up creating that offer, I will give you a free copy of whatever it is that you helped me create, along with an acknowledgment in the same.

And if you haven’t read my new 10 Commandments book yet, why not?

The book talks about SOMETHING, specifically the common strategies and techniques used by con men, pickup artists, magicians, door-to-door salesmen, hypnotists, copywriters, negotiators, political propagandists, stand up comedians, and Oscar-winning screenwriters.

If that sounds intriguing to you, or if you simply want to help me goose sales of my book while it’s not being advertised, here’s where to go:

https://bejakovic.com/new10commandments

He auctioned his CAT?!?!

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Yesterday in my Daily Email House community, I announced the winner of the prestigious “Inaugural Pool Party Funniest Comment” award.

The lucky winner was audio-engineer-turned-newsletter-operator Filip Stilin. Filip’s winning comment was:

“Subject line: He auctioned his CAT?!?!”

(In case you’re wondering why Filip’s comment was possibly funny, I could explain it, but would that make it funny now? I suspect no. Such is the nature of humor. You had to be there.)

Filip’s prize for writing this funniest comment are A) a physical copy of my favorite comedy book, which has influenced my writing as much as any copywriting or marketing book I’ve ever read, and B) the pleasure of seeing his comment turned into an actual subject line in my email today.

Now here’s the point, and why you might feel this email is anything beyond an inside joke run amok:

The whole idea for this “funniest comment” contest came up as a suggestion during the auction I ran last week, by one of the auction participants.

It was a suggestion I immediately adopted.

That’s because the biggest thing I’ve learned over the past year of running a community is to stop trying to do everything myself… to start asking for feedback and guidance and input… to let people participate and shape the direction of the group… instead of hitting them over the head repeatedly with content and “value” and then wondering why nobody’s engaging.

It’s kinda opposite of how I run this newsletter, which is guided exclusively and jealously by my own standards and tastes and preferences.

That’s not to say I can never adopt others’ suggestions in these emails. In fact that’s what I’m doing today with Filip’s subject line.

But that’s all done in line with the core concept of this newsletter, which I’ve realized is about performing real magic, about turning ideas into reality, about casting spells that make living, breathing rabbits appear.

That might sound grandiose, and maybe it is. In any case it’s true.

For example, the spell for today was “Apply a suggestion coming from the audience.”

Tomorrow’s spell might be something else.

This spell-based approach has been profoundly valuable to me in running this newsletter, and has made this newsletter 1000x more fun and educational and ultimately profitable than it would have been otherwise.

If you you wanna find out more about this “real magic” way of running a newsletter, and of the power of turning ideas into reality, I have created a course all abut it. It describes my approach in detail, gives lots of examples, and maybe encourages you to apply the same in your own world. For more info:

https://bejakovic.com/mve/

If you won’t laugh too much if I fail, I’ll try it

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A couple years ago I read a biography of Harry Houdini. I wanted to learn about showmanship because I’m far from a natural showman. And who better to learn from than one of the greatest showmen of the 20th century?

One curious thing kept catching my eye throughout the book. The background:

The background:

Houdini built his career on accepting public, grand, and spectacular challenges.

He’d perform on stage and offer audience members the chance to tie him in the thickest of ropes from head to foot, twice over, however they pleased, to see if they could keep him from freeing himself.

He’d challenge secret service agents to cuff him with their most modern handcuffs, to see if these cuffs were the ones that could finally hold him.

He’d accept when police chiefs publicly announced they would lock him inside their most secure cells, because those cells were impossible to get out of.

Now here’s the curious thing that caught my eye:

Each time Houdini accepted such a public challenge, rather than boasting that this would be a cakewalk because of his supernatural skills, he would rather highlight the possibility that he would fail.

For example, one time, after Houdini had just escaped from handcuffs in a police station, the police chief joked he will lock Houdini in a cell to keep him from escaping. Houdini replied:

“Getting out of a cell isn’t in my contract and I don’t guarantee it, but if you won’t laugh too much if I fail, I’ll try it.”

I’ve been thinking about this as I prepare for my upcoming “I endorse YOU” auction.

As I wrote a few days ago, this auction is the riskiest offer I’ve ever made, for myself personally.

If nobody ends up bidding or the winning bid ends up too low, I will look incompetent, foolish, and very probably unskilled in this thing I claim to be good enough to teach, namely, making offers that people want to pay me good money for.

On the other hand, the more successful the auction becomes, the more obligation I am taking on, and the more risky it becomes that I will fail on the delivery side. After all, I am promising that the winning bidder will make back all of his or her investment, and that becomes progressively more difficult the higher the bid goes.

But I’ll try it nonetheless, for your entertainment.

If you won’t laugh too much if I fail, I’ll put my reputation and wellbeing on the line for you.

Here are the details of the spectacle:

Time: This Wednesday, Dec 10, at 6pm CET/12 noon EST/9am PST.

Place: My Skool community, Daily Email House

What to bring: Popcorn, binoculars, and possibly smelling salts in case the person next to you faints from the suspense

If you wanna get your seats to the most daring, most risky, possibly most lethal challenge of my career:

https://bejakovic.com/house

A splendid chance for notoriety that will never offer itself again

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Three years ago, I wrote a prescient email that started out so:

“Today, I want to share with you a marketing technique so powerful, so daring, so all-around incredible that I wish I had the circumstances and the courage to implement it myself right now.”

This powerful, daring, and all-around incredible marketing technique is something I found in a book about P.T. Barnum. Lemme tell you about it.

Barnum once promoted a Swedish opera singer, Jenny Lind, on her first tour of the U.S. He ran ads in newspapers to promote Lind, but not just that.

Barnum also — get ready for this — ran an auction for the very first Lind ticket to be sold.

But again, not just that.

Barnum went in private to see a certain hat maker, Genin, and told Genin to bid as much as needed to win.

Barnum then went to a Dr. Brandreth, a maker of patent medicines, and also told the good doctor to bid as much as needed.

“The higher the price,” Barnum told both men separately, “the greater renown it will give you all over the country within twenty-four hours.”

Genin listened. He kept bidding and ended up putting up the winning $225 bid for the first Lind ticket, about $8,662 in today’s money.

Within 24 hours, the name “Genin the hat maker” was known all over the country.

Ragged and beat up “real Genin hats” started being sold at a 46,000% markup.

Genin started selling 10,000 extra hats a year on the back of that initial $225 investment — and became a very rich man.

Dr. Brandreth, on the other hand, didn’t listen to Barnum’s advice.

Brandeth decided to cap his bidding at $200, and he lost the opportunity to win the first Lind ticket. He later said:

“I had better have paid $5,000 [over $192,000 in today’s money] than to have missed securing the first Jenny Lind ticket. Such a splendid chance for notoriety will never offer itself again.”

Three years ago, as I said, I didn’t have the courage or circumstances to implement Barnum’s powerful, daring, and all-around incredible auction idea.

Today I have the circumstances — my Daily Email House group, where I can run the auction. And as for courage, I have gathered that too, and will run my own first auction soon.

Ultimately, this auction is your opportunity to build a name for yourself, gain notoriety, and achieve status, all while building up your email list.

If you win the auction, I will use my own good name, standing, and authority with my list to hold you up like baby Simba and say “Behold!” while all the gazelles and zebras stare up in wonder and applaud.

But even before that happens, you will already have gotten your name into people’s minds.

“Who is this Genin the hat maker?” they will ask, except with your name except Genin’s.

Some people are sure to look you up and sign up for your list right away.

If you have a flair for showmanship and self-promotion, you will be able to capitalize immediately by making a big deal out of being the winning bidder.

But even if not, your name will simply become more familiar to people — including the many influential marketers and business owners who read these emails — so they become more responsive to you the next time hear of you.

Now lean in. Close. I wanna whisper something important to you:

If you’re looking to build a name for yourself, I advise you, in secret, one-to-one, just you and me here inside this email, to bid as much as it takes to win.

It will be a splendid chance to win renown for yourself that will never offer itself again.

You’re likely to profit many times over what you will bid to win. Of course, I’m even guaranteeing that you will make all your money back before I’m done promoting you.

More details on my auction soon.

Meanwhile, if you wanna secure your spot inside Daily Email House, where the auction will be happening:

https://bejakovic.com/house