Last night, in response to my “Don’t vote for just some guy” email, a reader wrote in:
Hi John! 🙂
What is your sexual preference? Gay or straight?
Sorry if this question disturbs you!
I don’t know if I would call it a sexual preference, but I will tell you what really turns me on:
It’s when Internet strangers take the time to write and try to get a rise out of me. Because it means I’m doing something right.
The way I look at it is:
Your online persona is like a sales bullet.
You have to reveal enough to get people involved, like the guy above. But you have to withhold enough to keep people wanting more.
Now if you’ve been reading my emails for a short while, you might say I rarely share anything about my life, and so I fail hard on the first part of this equation.
The fact is, I’ve been writing these emails, every day, for over three years.
​​During that time, I’ve shared a lot of personal stories, including some about my colorful-if-patchy dating, sex, and relationship history.
And I guess that’s really the point raised by the come-hither question above. The point being:
If you want people to know anything about you online, you have to repeat yourself to no end.
New people join your list. Then they skip some of your emails. Or they don’t skip, but they don’t listen. Or, in the words of Fast Eddie Felson, they listen, but they don’t hear.
So if there is anything you want to make sure people online know about you… you have to say it often, and then repeat it, even when it starts to get nauseating for you personally.
Fortunately, I don’t rely on my email newsletter as my only or really my primary source of income (you can sign up for the newsletter here if you like).
That’s why I don’t have to keep repeating my stories, or reveal personal stuff, past the point where I myself find it amusing. (Maybe there’s a lesson in there too.)
But there are a few things I want to make sure you know about me.
Such as, for example, the rare and choice items I have for sale.
Like my 10 Commandments of A-list Copywriters book. No, it doesn’t have anything about my sexual past… but it does have a few personal stories to help illustrate the valuable lessons I learned from some of the world’s best copywriters.
This book is cheap, especially considering the value that’s inside.
It’s available on Amazon.
It’s called the 10 Commandments of A-List Copywriters.
Did I mention it’s available on Amazon and that it’s cheap and yet valuable? The link to it is here: