“You have to love yourself first. How else can you expect anyone else to love you?”
I knew a girl once who shared that bit of wisdom with me. I was young and naive and it sounded reasonable.
But then I lived a bit more. There were times when — not only did I not love myself — I didn’t remotely like myself.
And yet, other people loved me. My mom and my dad, of course. Friends and girlfriends, too. They didn’t know or didn’t care whether I found myself unlovable — they loved me.
Message received, loud and clear. So I concluded the following:
When somebody loves you, it says much more about them then about you. It says they are able and ready to love. All we know about you (not you specifically, you know what I mean) is that you are adequate.
Anyways, that’s a bit of personal philosophy I wanted to share with you. I’m not trying to depress you, by the way. Quite the opposite.
Because I believe it works the same the other way. If somebody does not love you… well, it says more about them than it says about you.
But this blog is about marketing and copywriting. So let me tie it up:
I bring this up in case you’re hustling, in business for yourself, or trying to flush customers or clients out of their hiding places. If that’s you, then you know (or soon will) that rejection is part of the game. Leads dismiss you. Customers and clients leave you.
I’ve been rejected thousands of times, personally and in business. It still stings. But little logical reminders, like the one above, can help.
Can help what?
They can help you go out there and get rejected again. They can help you keep working. Which is how you find success eventually — and even self-acceptance, if you haven’t got it now.
Now for something less fuzzy:
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