Pay close attention

Several years ago, I saw a grainy but mindblowing video from the 1970s:

A tennis coach took an out of shape 45-year-old woman and had her go from never having held a racket at minute 0, to playing serviceable tennis at minute 45, running around, getting forehands over the net and into the court, even serving.

If you’ve ever played tennis — as I have, for years, before I gave up the sport in frustration — you know this is almost miraculous. It takes months to learn what this woman was doing with such ease, particularly at her age.

The coach in that video was Tim Gallwey, who wrote a book called The Inner Game of Tennis. The book is well-worth a read even if, like me, you are naturally averse to ideas like “inner game” and “mindset.”

Gallwey’s technique for teaching tennis involved getting the student to pay close attention — to the sound of the ball as it hits the racquet, or to the rotation of the seams as the ball travels through the air, or to the exact spot that the ball crosses the net.

And that was it. Just pay attention, to one thing, closely.

Magically, inner-gamingly, this was somehow enough to get people like that 45-year-old woman to learn to play tennis in a single sessions of not trying very hard.

I found this very interesting at the time. It has stuck with me ever since. But as often happens, I never really dug much deeper.

And then, a couple days ago, I was reading a 2007 book about the discovery of neuroplasticity, titled The Brain That Changes Itself. From that book:

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Finally, Merzenich [the scientist who conclusively proved neuroplasticity exists] discovered that paying close attention is essential to long-term plastic change. In numerous experiments he found that lasting changes occurred only when his monkeys paid close attention. When the animals performed tasks without paying attention, they changed their brain maps, but the changes did not last.

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Why do kids pick up skills and languages and social norms so easily and thoroughly, without seeming effort?

A part of the brain, known as nucleus basalis, is turned on in kids’ brains. All the time. The nucleus basalis makes it so kids pay attention to everything.

Eventually, the nucleus basalis gets turned off, or at least stops being on all the time, or even most of the time. Attention becomes more of a thing you have to do consciously, like Gallwey instructed his tennis students to do. But the results seem well worth it.

So if you want to master a skill, internalize a new belief, or learn Korean, pay attention — to something, anything. Don’t just go through the motions. Don’t do it automatically. Don’t just rote repeat. The results — so say neuroscientists and real life practitioners like Gallwey — will be rapid and almost magical acquisition of new skill and knowledge.

On the flip side:

If a stranger tells you to pay close attention — not me, but a stranger, particularly one in a tuxedo, with slicked back hair, and speaking in a heavy Italian accent — then beware.

You’re likely about to get fooled, and badly.

The topic of attention makes up a large part of my new 10 Commandments book. The fact is, nothing gets done in the world of influence, persuasion, comedy, magic, or hypnosis, without attention.

The difference is that influence professionals — the magicians, door to door salesmen, hypnotists — guide the attention of their audience or prospect or patient to achieve a specific outcome. Sometimes that’s aligned with what the audience or patient or prospect wants. Sometimes it’s not.

If this is a topic that interests you, click through to the following page, and pay close attention to the description of Commandment VII:

https://bejakovic.com/new10commandments

A tip for deeper concentration and faster learning

I’ve watched maybe a dozen presentations or seminars by marketing great Dan Kennedy. Dan will often poll the room.

“How many of you read fiction?”

People raise their hands and stare at Dan. “You’d be better off looking around the room at what other people are doing,” Dan will often say.

I took Dan’s lesson to heart.

At the copywriting conference I attended a couple weeks ago, I made a point to look around the room repeatedly, throughout each presenter’s talk. How was the audience reacting? I learned some valuable things. Plus it helped me stay focused.

Other times, when speakers were speaking, I took notes. But not of the “how to” information the speakers were sharing. Instead, I took notes of the claims they were making, the language they were using.

“I’m not looking for clients… I’m looking for success stories.”

There were some hot seats during the conference as well. Trevor “Toe Cracker” Crook picked a copywriter at random out of the audience.

This copywriter didn’t really have a clear problem to solve, but there she was in the hot seat. For the next 15 minutes, seven high-powered, highly paid success coaches went around in circles, trying to identify and then solve a problem that didn’t really exist.

During this time, much of the audience slumped to sleep. I managed to stay awake, and not just because of the three coffees I’d had in the previous two hours. I was taking notes again, of the language the hot seat sitter was herself using:

“I guess I just want confirmation. I want somebody to tell me, ‘Your work is great. You should get paid more. You should work less.'”

That could go directly into a sales letter. And besides, it helped me stay focused, awake, interested in the actual experience of sitting in a chair and listening for hours.

This is something I learned once in a book called The Inner Game of Tennis, by a guy named Tim Gallwey.

I long had prejudices against this book, because I assumed it was all about mindset. “You’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggone it, you deserve to win tennis matches!”

But that’s not what this book is about at all. I was so pleasantly surprised as I read it. It’s full of practical tips, like the following:

“The most effective way to deepen concentration is to focus on something subtle, not easily perceived.”

The usual tennis coaching advice, if you’ve ever tried playing the stupid sport, is to “watch the ball.”

Most people manage to stick to that behavior for a few seconds, then their eyes wander. That’s why it takes people months or even years before they can reliably hit a tennis ball over the net and into the court.

Gallwey didn’t tell his students to watch the ball. He told them to keep their eye on the spin of the seams on the tennis ball. That’s how he managed to teach people to play serviceable tennis in 30 minutes or less.

And that’s what I was trying to do at that conference also. I wasn’t paying attention. I was focusing on specific, subtle, easy-to-miss things. The reactions of the audience. Repeated words or phrases by the speaker. Sales letter fodder from the hot seat sitter, rather than overt problems.

If you’re looking for deeper concentration, or help with learning anything, maybe this tip can help you also.

And if you want more learning and performance tips, Gallwey’s book has ’em.

Like I said, I was so pleasantly surprised by this book. If you haven’t read it yet, my experience is that it’s worth a read. And it’s worth keeping an eye out for every time Gallway uses the word “rhythm.” Get your copy here:

https://bejakovic.com/inner-game